A Thousand Little Losses

photo credit: niagragriefcenter.org

Do you ever wish you could go back in time and relive a moment or maybe even a decade? There have been moments in my life that I just wish I could “freeze” and live there a little bit longer. And, I think I know why we do this.

As life changes (and it does on a daily basis), we are acutely aware of our losses. Losses aren’t necessarily always big things–like death or divorce–but could be as simple as a changing relationship, watching parents age, or moving away from home for the first time.

These are hard things. We need to grieve these losses just like anything else. How, you ask?

1. Recognize them for what they are. Admit that you miss what used to be.

2. Remember and identify the things you loved about the relationship/home/whatever your loss is.

3. Reflect on the role that relationship/person/place/situation has played in your life.

4. Focus on the good that is to come in your new situation.

And, of course, stop focusing on the loss only. Start identifying what you do have and what you are grateful for.


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